Posts Tagged ‘ Boyfriend ’

ANY FOLLOWERS OUT THERE?

A big HELLO To all new followers and a great big HELLO to all of my first followers.

Today I have to speak out. I have to rant, you might say; well I call it addressing issues!

Let me paint a picture for ya;

Relationship of years? Can one still be amicable with your ex? SHOULD you?

I have been wondering how some people can be “friends” with their exs. I sure as heck could never.

It’s not because they were horrible ugly people and destroyed my life(no, really.) BUT because there is always a feeling left behind that one can’t help. I was dating my now ex for 4 years, lived together for a short period of time and broke up after about 1 month of his moving out. Why? Many reasons. Not the point. If you ever need reasons to not be friends with your exs.. Keep reading.

1. You loved each other, ALOT.

There isn’t much to be said here except for, love never truly dies, it just gets replaced by other feelings for the time of “forgetting” but love never dies, not your fucking around-never settling down dude/gal, I’m talking real love, that never goes away. EVER. So you seeing your ex on the daily. NOT THE BEST IDEA BRO.

2. WHAT IFS.

“What if he stayed because he’s waiting for me to change and he will love me again.. Like before!”
..no. He stayed because you’re the go-to. You’re the safe place, the amarte girl, the reallygoodheadgiving girl. Lets be honest, one can only deal with the realities not the what ifs. Be stronger than your emotion for sake!

& 3.

SEX

100% sex sex sex.

It’s your comfort zone you know him he knows you, it’s easy and fast.
But it never will be the same. HE WILL NEVER LOVE YOU THE SAME… Because what you see as “casual sex” aka “making sweet love to the man that still loves me dearly” they see as “CASUAL SEX and nothing more. Don’t get your hopes up.

LET IT GO, THE COLD NEVER BOTHERED YOU ANYWAYYY.

So I hope for now my harsh love helped. Love you guys! Have a safe night!
❤️🍷

Getting over ex boyfriends

If you are TRYING to get over your boyfriend, continue reading.

If you want pitty, leave now.

Nothing sucks more than breaking up with someone whom you though you would spend the rest of your life with. As a girl, we deal with things differently and we have different ways of coping with pain. I have been through breaks up and i have felt every possible emotion so i think i’m a good enough source.

1. Baby steps. 1 2 3

take the 3 days off. Ever heard of this? yeah.  It works.

Take 3 days off from the world, give yourself 3 days to cry and scream and be an idiot and feel pain. After those 3 days, it is time to go back to life.  After 3 days, you’re just playing the pitty game and trying to make people feel bad for you. Stop it. Take life slow, adjust to being on your own.  It’s a big change to go from one day having someone next to you and the next feeling lonelier than the fish in the deep ocean.

2. Cut it off

Your phone. As much as you want to call and text him and say i love you and cry and try to get what you had back, do you realize how hard it is to ever feel the same way? nearly impossible. Think about what would happen if you two got back together and it was because he saw you weak and felt bad. Would you ever feel really satisfied. If it didn’t work out and you’re trying to get over him (obvi.) then you two just were not working out.

3. Friends

I can’t express this enough. It’s hard to read this and be like YEAH OMG THAT’S GONNA MAKE ME FEEL AWESOME. No actually try this. don’t lose yourself and become an outcast because of a relationship. No matter how much love you feel at the moment.

4. No peeping toms.

PLEASE PLEASE. do not stalk, follow, look for your ex anywhere.If you know he’s gonna be at the gym at 9am, and you purposely go to the gym and IGNORE him. He’s going to think you’re desperate and be turned off.

5. HELLO

If you accidentally run into him, which if you live in that same city WILL happen at least once, SAY HELLO. Be polite. I always say if you’re old enough to be in a relationship, then you’re old enough to have manners.If you’re old enough to have sex, you should be old enough to take responsibility. Say hello. Just do it, no matter if he doesn’t say it back.  At least you’re big enough to say hello and show you’re not bitter (even if you’re dying inside) . Now if he doesn’t say anything back, shows who’s still not over who.

6. Question things.

Was it because i didn’t do this right? Maybe i did this wrong? What if i didn’t give him enough of this? STOP IT! Question things that actually matter like, Why am i letting a guy put me down? ‘ he’s not just some guy he’s special’ .. no. He’s just some guy. How come he did leave?  maybe it was something HE did, and not you and was too scared to tell you, or maybe he grew out of love. But don’t please please DON’T blame yourself for the break up.  A relationship is a two way street. One action is influenced by another.

7.  NEW RELATIONSHIPS

If you want to start a new relationship, it will help you so much. I don’t advise you to get into anything serious, just date unless you are completely over your ex and have seen yourself mature and change.

Other than this, i really cannot think of anything else that will help you get over your ex. Again, this is really only what i would do, It has worked and i have seen it work however, i think people never actually stick to it with passion.

Hope i helped!